“I was in the military years ago and while I was deployed my wife cheated on me. I found out and started divorce proceedings. In the mean time, there was no room for me in the barracks and I had to stay in my housing unit with her until a spot opened up.
My soon-to-be ex made the decision for both of us that we were going to stay married no matter how many times I told her it was over and it was only a matter of time until we went to court.
One night I came home from my unit and she insisted we have sex. I told her there was no way in hell that was happening. She then physically made it happen. She literally chased me around our living room pulling my uniform off, piece by piece. She ripped my shirt off my torso.
I didn’t want it. I struggled against it. I said no and stop over and over again. She practically held me down but I knew if I fought her off she could scream abuse and I’d hang for it. The military does NOT play around when it comes to domestic violence. She knew that and used it to get what she wanted.
Later that night I tried to leave the house once and for all and she physically attacked me. I had to stand there and take it because I knew if I laid a hand on her, I would go to jail and my career would be over. She hit me multiple times and scratched me and drew blood and smashed my nose enough that I had breathing problems for months afterwards.
The MPs (military police) show up and she starts screaming how I attacked her and she had to fight me off. I ask the MPs how that is possible as she doesn’t have a mark on her and I am bleeding everywhere. The MPs are sympathetic.
I get told that despite the evidence, since I’m the male and the soldier, I have to leave the house and they have to take me into custody. I get arrested for domestic violence. She gets arrested as well, but the charge is simply assault.
Later during my interview with the MP’s I told them what she did to force me to have sex, holding me down, ignoring me telling her to stop, etc. The sergeant shook his head and asked me “Did you get an erection?” “Yeah, of course, she kept playing with my dick and sucking on it, I couldn’t stop her.” “Well, you can’t rape the willing.” And that was that.
I still don’t really know how to deal with it.
I have since remarried and one time I told my wife about it and she said almost the same thing. “Guys can’t get raped. Your dick wouldn’t get hard if you didn’t want it.” This is a woman who is A+ in pre-law and who is someone I consider very intelligent. shrug A lot of women don’t believe you can rape a man.“
-Reddit user Slain-Immortal
Link to the thread-
https://m.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/52kvpi/serious_men_who_have_been_raped_sexually/?utm_source=mweb_redirect&compact=trueMen can be victims too. We’ve created a society where men are always seen as the abuser. This is a problem that needs to be addressed
This is a true men’s rights issue. Reblog the shit out of this!
Ive seen quite a few of my army buddies get similar treatment.
Its disgusting.
Tag: tw abuse
TMZ just posted a video of Johnny Depp attacking Amber Heard & one of the comments was, and I quote: “He’s a method actor. Could just be prepping in character. This proves nothing.” I give up.
This is awful. Awful.
Fuck that half-assed excuse shit.
I saw the video and it was appalling, btw.
Since people are going to inevitably say “he didn’t even do much in the video” or something like that:
My dad was abusive in a very similar way to the above video.
I watched the video on mute first to see what I was getting into. When he threw open the cabinets, without sound, I flinched every time. I’m all too familiar with that kind of angry slam–even when that anger isn’t physically directed at you, it’s terrifying. You know whatever he’s slamming would be you if he snapped. Maybe not consciously in the moment, but on a real, visceral level.
Even the way he does and doesn’t talk to her is terrifying and reminds me of how my dad used to be when he was pissed off like that.* I was on the edge of being triggered, and I’m never triggered.
It doesn’t take physical contact to count as abuse. My dad never raised a hand to me, but his emotional abuse severely damaged me and my entire family.
This video combined with her bruises? Johnny Depp needs help. Help and prison.
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