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TMZ just posted a video of Johnny Depp attacking Amber Heard & one of the comments was, and I quote: “He’s a method actor. Could just be prepping in character. This proves nothing.” I give up. 

This is awful. Awful.

Fuck that half-assed excuse shit. 

I saw the video and it was appalling, btw. 

Since people are going to inevitably say “he didn’t even do much in the video” or something like that:

My dad was abusive in a very similar way to the above video. 

I watched the video on mute first to see what I was getting into. When he threw open the cabinets, without sound, I flinched every time. I’m all too familiar with that kind of angry slam–even when that anger isn’t physically directed at you, it’s terrifying.  You know whatever he’s slamming would be you if he snapped. Maybe not consciously in the moment, but on a real, visceral level. 

Even the way he does and doesn’t talk to her is terrifying and reminds me of how my dad used to be when he was pissed off like that.* I was on the edge of being triggered, and I’m never triggered. 

It doesn’t take physical contact to count as abuse. My dad never raised a hand to me, but his emotional abuse severely damaged me and my entire family. 

This video combined with her bruises? Johnny Depp needs help. Help and prison.  

Please reblog if:

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•your anxiety has made it difficult for you to voice your opinion

•your anxiety has made it difficult to dress the way you want

•your anxiety has made it difficult to ask for help

•your anxiety has made you constantly worry if you are being annoying and wonder if your friends and family are valid relationships or if they just put up with you because they have to

And please know that you are not fighting this battle alone. You are worth more than your anxiety says. You matter and so does your opinion and your say.
You are awesome

Understanding a Shame-Based Personality

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There is a difference between blaming and shaming a person. 

  • Blaming is being told you did something wrong. 
  • Shaming is being told that there’s something wrong with you, and you’re worthless, bad, inferior or inadequate. 

Examples of shaming statements include:

  • “You were a mistake; I wish I’d never had you”
  • “You’re useless; you’ll never amount to anything.”
  • “You could never do what he/she does”
  • “You’ve ruined my life; you ruin everything for everyone”

Adults shamed in childhood have the following traits:

  1. They are afraid to share their true thoughts and feelings with others.
  2. They are terrified of intimacy and put up walls in relationships. They also fear commitment as they expect to be rejected.
  3. They are often extremely shy, easily embarrassed, and are terrified of being shamed or humiliated. They tend to suffer from debilitating false guilt.
  4. They struggle with feelings of worthlessness and believe they are inferior to others. They believe that is something they can never change as worthlessness is at the core of who they are.
  5. They often feel ugly and flawed, even when they’re beautiful – and everyone tells them that.
  6. They may be narcissistic and act as if they have it all together; alternatively, they may be completely selfless, almost to the point of being a doormat.
  7. They are often very defensive and find it hard to bear the slightest criticism. They feel as if they are being constantly watched and judged.
  8. They have a pervasive sense of loneliness and always feel like outsiders (even when others genuinely like and love them).
  9. They feel controlled – as if they always have to do want others want and say – and this blocks spontaneity.
  10. They are perfectionists and usually suffer from performance anxiety. This may also cause them to be procrastinators.
  11. They tend to block their feelings through compulsive behaviors like eating disorders, retail therapy or substance-abuse.
  12. They find it hard to establish and enforce healthy boundaries with others. 

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It’s just grand how much of my personality is summed up in this list.

Don’t ever shame kids under any circumstances.

It’s literally always child abuse.