The baby girl that was born just a few hours ago… her father wants to drown her in milk because he didn’t receive a male heir!
Rekha as Ramdulaari // Lajja (2001)
This is why it angers me when people reduce Bollywood to frivolous musicals made solely for entertainment. Bollywood is a multidimensional platform that exposes a lot of prevalent issues in an often bold and unapologetic manner. Powerful scenes like the above illustrate how the Indian movie industry seeks to enlighten the public. I promise you, it’s not all song and dance.
“The 17-year-old, Hunger Games actor Amandla Stenberg has come out as non-binary.
Stenberg – who plays Rue in the adventure film franchise – says she feels like she’s not a ‘woman’ all the time, and non-binary is a term that she feels comfortable using to describe herself. (She is using female pronouns).
Writing on Tumblr, she said she is organizing a workshop on feminism, specifically how ‘mainstream feminist movements have continuously excluded women who are not white, thin, cisgender, able-bodied and neurotypical’.
Something we are struggling with is understanding the intersection of feminism and gender identity…
We’re both people who don’t feel like “women” all the time – but we claim feminism as our movement.
Basically, we’re trying to understand the duality of being a non-binary person and a feminist. How do you claim a movement for women when you don’t always feel like one?”
#1: THANK YOU AMANDLA FOR YOUR CONSISTENT AWESOMENESS AS AN INTERSECTIONAL FEMINIST AND ROLE MODEL FOR YOUTH & EVERYONE ELSE!
#2: YOU DON’T NEED TO BE A WOMEN OR CIS TO BE FOR WOMEN’S RIGHTS. Just like white people can and should advocate for racial equality, everyone can and should advocate for gender equality.
I give Amandla a TON of credit for having to not only grow up in public, but grow up as a non-binary POC in a white / sexist / cisnormative society! She is young and figuring herself and society out. I’m Team Stenberg and am not looking to call her out, I just wanted to make this crucial clarification. As Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie says, We Should All Be Feminists
My boyfriend is still traumatized from his last relationship.
The first time my boyfriend had sex with his old girlfriend she tried getting him drunk by lying and saying his drink had no alcohol in it and when he wouldn’t drink it she started fake crying, saying how he doesn’t want to have sex with her because he doesn’t think she is pretty and said she would slit her wrists if he wouldn’t fuck her because she doesn’t want to be alive without him. My boyfriend told me right after they finished he ran into the bathroom to throw up.
Afterwards she started getting more and more controlling and moved in with him making him cut contacts with his family and started stealing his phone to text his friends pretending to be him to ruin their friendships. He hated being around her but she had convinced him that they were meant to be together and were going to get married. Whenever someone at his job got sick he would try to be around them in the hopes of getting sick too because he knew how much of a germaphobe she was and if he was sick she wouldn’t force him to have sex that night like she did every night. But eventually she made him quit work too because he had 300,000$ in a trust fund and they could just live off that.
The first time she hurt him so bad he had to go to the hospital was when his car broke down and he was 40 minutes late for getting home. She assumed he had cheated on her so she started wreaking their apartment and threw a glass at him that hit him in the eye cutting into his cornea. When the emergency room doctor asked what happened and he told him how his girlfriend had done it the doctor just chuckled and said, “You would think someone as big as you could handle a girl like that no matter how feisty she is.” Every time after that he went to ER none of the doctors even asked how he got hurt. He has permanent damage to his vision.
After 5 months she had spent 2/3 of his entire trust fund on purses and clothes and shoes and a new car for her and she started getting more angry and abusive since the money was running out. My boyfriend was to afraid to tell anyone about what was going on or call the police because he knew that she could just tell them that he had beat or raped her and knowing how much bigger he is then her they would take her side. She constantly threatened to lie and say he had raped her and have him sent to prison for things as small as him not buying her an expensive gift she wanted.
Finally a neighbor did call the police about the noise when she was wrecking his stuff and as soon as they got there they had my boyfriend in handcuffs. They wouldn’t even listen to what he was saying and were about to bring him down to central booking when the neighbor came out and explained it was his girlfriend who was breaking the things and how my bf wouldn’t hurt anyone. After the police found that out they uncuffed him and just left.
After she had spent the last of the trust fund money he found out she had been cheating on him with more than one guy the entire time they were together and she broke up with him.
About a year later he found out that she had been arrested for embezzlement when her boss found out she had been stealing from the salon she worked at. She immediately accused her boss of rape and he ended up dropping the charges for her stealing from the company.
My boyfriend and her were only together for 9 months. Today my boyfriend is 24 and cries in his sleep when he has nightmares about when they were together. If anyone even mentions her in front of my bf the blood will just drain from his face and he usually has to excuse himself. He is literally the sweetest and gentlest and kindest man you could ever imagine and it makes me so mad that there are feminists out there who think him opening up about what happened is him trying to take the spotlight away from female abuse victims. Or that they can try and blame him for not leaving her and act like what happened to him was a joke and try and make it harder for other men to be able to come forward with their stories or even just deny all the statistics and claim he never was a victim of abuse since men don’t get abused.
Please feminists if you are reading this just stop. I don’t get how you can go about your day and act all high and mighty knowing you are literally just hurting people.
We as women need to recognize and acknowledge that we are extremely privileged in how our words will almost always be taken seriously over a man’s, and how our abuse of others isn’t recognized as abuse. Modern “feminism” is only further encouraging this privilege, and not only is that NOT equality, but it is dangerous and disquieting. Our justice system is not just. It won’t be just until women are held accountable for their actions to the same degree as men. I don’t want to live in a world where female rapists are seen as imaginary, mothers who kill their children rarely receive satisfactory sentences, and where men can be violently assauted by women, yet are still assumed to be the one at fault, even if that world allows me to cry my way out of a speeding ticket.
The story above should never have happened. This man shouldn’t have had to feel trapped in an abusive relationship. That doctor’s first response should NOT have been to imply that this man “should have been able to handle himself” (the fuck is he supposed to do to stop flying glass, doc? Use the Force?). That police officer should NOT have immediately placed this man in cuffs, and ignored him. He should not still be brought to tears just thinking about the nightmare he endured.
Because this happened to a man, it’s doubtful that this post will make it past 2k notes. If it happened to a woman, it would be past 100k notes by now, and everyone would be calling for a beheading at dawn. There would be constant cries of “This is why I need feminism!”. But, because the man is the victim, this story will disappear quietly into the ether, never to be spoken of again.
It’s time to stop ignoring these things, ladies. Our privilege is NOT worth anyone else’s suffering.
Pause … Can We Talk About This . Like This Highkey Not Funny . Ladies , Guys Also Have To Give You Consent .
This isn’t funny. He was sexually assaulted.
Dang
Smfh
Bruh he being dead ass serious and people still gone laugh at him. Shit not even funny man. Smfh.
He was raped can someone find out what happened or try to get him help?
I never thought this was funny..like his tears keep flowing. he’s dead ass serious.
Get him some help
his friends are fucking awful. he trusted them with that and they laughed, recorded it, and put it on the internet. if you’re a guy and your friend comes to you about something like this take it seriously, please. you might be the only help he has
His “friends” ain’t shit he crying n u laughing
A lot of people don’t take rape seriously when the aggressor is a woman.
Wait hold up, where are all the MRAs and anti-feminist niggas at? Yall talk so much shit about feminists not being here for male rape victims but where yall at?
This is all types of fucked up. I’m glad this is back and getting this type of attention on my dash
Omg smh
Yeah, this is not cool at all…y’all should make sure he gets some counseling…
Vaginas are expected to be bald, super soft with no stubble, smell like fresh picked lavender and taste like a mango yet there are so many hairy, discolored, sweaty and salty ballsacks out there demanding to be in a mouth.
I can’t even find anything in my Activity cause of this post
I’m out to my friends and family. Most people at work know too. Everyone is cool with it. Yes, thanks to my fabulous sister they’ve done it before, but also because they’re fantastic people. Without the love and support of my wife and friends and family I would not be where I am today.
Lilly Wachowski
While yes, we should celebrate Lilly, please don’t forget that she was basically intimidated into coming out by the media – notably the Daily Mail, the notorious british tabloid – and yes the statement above is uplifting, but I feel it’s kind of covering up the circumstances a lot and I know a lot of people won’t follow the link to the article.
Another extract from the statement in the Windy City Times:
“My sister Lana and I have largely avoided the press. I find talking about my art frustratingly tedious and talking about myself a wholly mortifying experience. I knew at some point I would have to come out publicly. You know, when you’re living as an out transgender person it’s … kind of difficult to hide. I just wanted—needed some time to get my head right, to feel comfortable.
But apparently I don’t get to decide this.
After he had given me his card, and I closed the door it began to dawn on me where I had heard of the Daily Mail. It was the “news” organization that had played a huge part in the national public outing of Lucy Meadows, an elementary school teacher and trans woman in the UK. An editorial in the “not-a-tabloid” demonized her as a damaging influence on the children’s delicate innocence and summarized “he’s not only trapped in the wrong body, he’s in the wrong job.” The reason I knew about her wasn’t because she was transgender it was because three months after the Daily Mail article came out, Lucy committed suicide.
And now here they were, at my front door, almost as if to say—
“There’s another one! Let’s drag ‘em out in the open so we can all have a look!”
Being transgender is not easy. We live in a majority-enforced gender binary world. This means when you’re transgender you have to face the hard reality of living the rest of your life in a world that is openly hostile to you.
I am one of the lucky ones. Having the support of my family and the means to afford doctors and therapists has given me the chance to actually survive this process. Transgender people without support, means and privilege do not have this luxury. And many do not survive. In 2015, the transgender murder rate hit an all-time high in this country. A horrifying disproportionate number of the victims were trans women of color. These are only the recorded homicides so, since trans people do not all fit in the tidy gender binary statistics of murder rates, it means the actual numbers are higher.
And though we have come a long way since Silence of the Lambs, we continue to be demonized and vilified in the media where attack ads portray us as potential predators to keep us from even using the goddamn bathroom. The so-called bathroom bills that are popping up all over this country do not keep children safe, they force trans people into using bathrooms where they can be beaten and or murdered. We are not predators, we are prey.
So yes, Lilly is a fantastic woman, and I am happy that she is comfortably out in her own support network and community. But please remember that she only outed herself publicly because if she didn’t do it herself, the press were going to kick up a fuss.
Please note: I am cis, and I don’t want to speak for or over trans people, I’m simply highlighting what I think is the more important message to take from this press statement.
alternative headline: Daily Mail bullies woman into coming out as transgender
Mothers like Consuelo Hermosillo were in labor when medical staff urged signed consent for a “life saving” treatment. Unbeknown to the mothers, doctors performed a tubal ligation, by clamping, cutting or burning of the fallopian tubes without disclosing the exact procedure.
I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages.
There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.
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